Ask the Tarot: Is That all There Is?

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We received the following question from a reader who has questions about her marriage:

My name is Sage (not real name) and I am married and I am constantly struggling to know if I made the right choice in marrying him. I often feel there is more for me or a better match. And while my husband is great, loving devoted and financially supportive I am not sure I can stay for the rest of my life with him and have kids with him…

I am not sure what information you need but I want to know if I am deep down destined to be with someone else or if I have found the person I am meant to be with and I should just live my life with them. Please help me I am a bit of an emotional mess.

It should be noted that Sage did submit birth information for herself and her husband “James,” which has been omitted from this post.

So what can the Tarot tell us about her situation. As always this is simplified version of an actual reading, which would take into account a more comprehensive overview of the question and would probably involve a few different tarot spreads. But for the purposes of this entry, Chrisalis looked at a 4-card spread, drawing from the fantastic Starlight Illuminated Tarot, by Carol Herzer.

The four cards pulled for this reading were: the Hierophant, the Queen of Cups, the Empress and the Tower.

Sage writes that she’s feeling restless and uncertain, and asks: “Is that all there is?” So let’s Ask the Tarot:


Hello Sage,

Thanks for contacting us with your questions.

And yes I can see you would be having a bit of confusion as to what you wanted in life and particularly in your marriage as the Hierophant card was the first card to come out in your reading and this card specifically stands for your relationship.

When I pulled it it was set apart from the 3 other cards. If you can imagine them all in a line of 4 cards then the relationship seemed to be somewhat “outside” of yourself and you were not a part of it and may feel as if you are already withdrawing or leaving the relationship on an emotional level.

The Queen of Cups is a woman who feels her emotions strongly and even though you are a Virgo you are looking at your situation in an emotional way alongside that of the card of the Empress which is that of caring for others and also quite possibly caring for yourself.

The Empress card can represent a pregnancy but in this instance it may be that it represents you thinking about having a child and the last card here of the Tower shows that you are perhaps not yet ready to face or think about having a child and that now is not the right time.

I suspect this may be because when you think about the future with your husband and having a child then all of the other things which are not working for you within the marriage come up stronger and it throws you off balance and makes you withdraw further from the marriage and question whether you should be in it.

Your husband did not even show up in this line of 4 cards it was all about you and your thoughts, feelings about the marriage… and also thoughts and feeling about your own self.

You seem to already be pulling back from it and asserting yourself as an individual rather than a partner within the marriage and these types of thoughts would only serve to bring up more and more questions within yourself as to what you really want.

I would wait things out for a bit. I suspect there are transits in play here on your astrological chart which Melodie is going to be looking at.


The Tower card suggests there is a bumpy road you are on now but nothing is ever permanent and bumpy roads end. You had such wonderful cards for yourself here.

Both the Queen of Cups and Empress are strong, feminine women and they are also about emotions rather than actions further suggesting you need to explore what is going on within you at the moment rather than changing a situation on the outside.

Indeed, the situation “on the outside” namely that of your marriage was perfectly depicted when the Hierophant card laid itself “apart” from the other 3 cards in this row and showed that whilst you are part of a marriage you are also part of yourself and right now you may find you need to get in touch with yourself to know what to do about the marriage.

I hope this is helpful for you and now I’ll turn it over to Melodie who had some thoughts on yours and your husband’s charts.

From Melodie:

Hi Sage.. first of all thanks for including your exact (timed) birth data which in the interest of privacy I will not post the full chart here. But I will highlight what stood out for me, both in your natal chart and in your current transits.

Here’s the portion of the chart with the main players (some planets and points — including Sun and Moon are omitted here):


This is a Gemini rising chart with Uranus in Sagittarius on the marriage house cusp. This sort of classically describes at least one divorce — with the dual signs Gemini / Sag across the marriage axis and Uranus — the planet that rules “divorce” — within a few degrees of the marriage house cusp.

But as an astrologer I have to be careful making those kinds of distinctions, as I’m sure there are numerous examples of people with a similar natal signature who manifest that energy differently. Either way it does imply a strong need for freedom and independence, a desire to “break free: and a tendency toward restlessness in relationship.

The relationship ruler (Jupiter) is in opposition to the romance ruler (Venus), and both of them in hard aspect to Pluto, which emanates from the 5th house — the area related to romance, love affairs, self expression and children. This is the main red and black triangle configuration you can see in the chart diagram on the left.

This natal signature itself reinforces the discontent. It does not say you WILL divorce. it does say however that you will deal with challenges and temptations to break free from your marriage when those natal aspects are triggered.

The other aspect I included here involves your chart ruler (Mercury) which is conjunct Mars and square Saturn. I mainly included this aspect because it not only describes feelings of discontent in general (Mercury and Mars square Saturn) but also because this configuration is being triggered now by the transiting Saturn.

Saturn takes roughly 29 years to go around the Sun one time. When it returns to its natal position, as is the case with you now, it marks a major turning point in our lives.

It’s not only the end one cycle and the beginning of a new one, it’s also a time when we all start weeding out the “dead wood” in our lives in order to prepare for the next chapter. It always brings a sense of clarity (glaring, and often painful) that becomes the catalyst for change.

In your case this transit also pulls in the Mercury/Mars aspect which is likely to emphasize those feelings of discontent. It’s also tied to romance, children, creativity, self-expression (from a solar perspective) and work — as in your calling or your purpose (from a natal perspective).

There’s more going on of course — more than we could get into here. (For example, a Venus transit  that has been hovering over your ascendant for the last week or so and is referenced again in the cards Chris pulled. Note the Venus symbol so prominent in the middle — Empress — card).

But what all the above means, in a nutshell, is that the feelings you’ve expressed are clearly outlined in the transits affecting your chart.

Those transits move on (in your case the Saturn transit will be complete by late October).  But you’re forever changed. You’re going to have to decide if you want to weather out this period of seeing the glass half-full (Saturn) or cut and run.

You’ve said yourself this is a good man and he looks it to me. While his chart absolutely shows a potential right now (Jul/ Aug) for marital crisis, it doesn’t have any of the warning signs (natally) for a bad marriage. We didn’t have a birth time for him, but I do have some ideas based on the tranits that are active in his chart presently.

My recommendation to you is not to make any decisions one way or another for the next 3-4 months. Until this Saturn transit is complete.

And as for the question “Is that all there is?” of course it’s not. There’s going to be a variety of options out there and I don’t believe you’d end up alone. But as for whether there’s something “better”… my sense is that you’d be trading one set of problems (boredom and discontent) for another if you were to decide to leave.








The cards used for the tarot portion of this post come from the Illuminated Tarot series which was self-published by Carol Herzer. Used by generous permission. There are several versions of these recolored Rider-Waite decks, each more beautiful than the last. This card is from her Starlight Illuminated version

You can read more about the genesis of Carol’s foray into hand-painting and re-colorizing these decks on her site, They are also available for purchase directly from Carol. Email her first for details. Please also check out the Soul-Guidance YouTube channel. Thank you Carol! 


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5 comments on “Ask the Tarot: Is That all There Is?

  1. sage

    Hi Mel and Chris

    I just read your reading to my questions and I am beyond stunned and shocked!! Its is everything to the tee of how I feel, what I am thinking and what is going on in my life. I could not believe it. I wanted to personally thank you for doing this reading for me it has truly given me some solace and piece of mind for the time being. I hope that I will along with your help in the coming months gain more guidance from you guys on what is going on and what direction I should take.

    I did have a few questions to ask about the reading which I was hoping you could clarify. Mel when you said my natal chart shows at least one divorce did that mean I would divorce my husband or did it mean that my natal chart is showing signs of a divorce but that might change when Saturn finishes its rotation? Also when you say options out there for me is that a sign I should explore this?

    If these are questions that I should wait until end of october I understand but I would like to keep in touch with you guys as you have been extremely helpful and are very good at predicting my current situation

    Thanks again

  2. Melodie

    Hey Sage — let me clarify about the “at least one divorce”… that is part of your natal signature which does not have to result in divorce at all. Sure it’s common, but it doesn’t have to manifest in that way. As Gemini rising’s big complaint is boredom, the antidote for that is marrying someone who keeps you interested, or better yet finding ways to keep yourself interested in your marriage/ partnership through your own means. There are many Gemini rising people out there who do NOT end up divorcing.

    As for this restlessness changing after you’ve completed your Saturn return. So much of that has to do with how much you grow through the experience. Most of us go through it kicking and screaming in the early stages and then turning that frustration into motivation as it nears the end … I think we all gain a level of maturity and you may very well look at the marriage in a new light, with a renewed respect for what it offers.

    The part about “options out there… ” be careful there. That’s true there will be — whether you leave or not there will be temptations. But don’t make the decision to leave based on whether there’s something better out there for you. That’s a slippery slope and as I said before you could be trading one set of problems for another.

    My advice is to use this time to think — not just about what you want out of your marriage long term but also whether it’s realistic to expect a marriage to not have bumps. This one is going to have them, but I think the connections between the two of you (which we didn’t look at too much here) can make for a happy long lasting marriage. So much is going to depend on your own expectations.

    All the best

  3. Sage

    Hi Melodie

    I Cannot again stress to you how thankful I am for this advise and insight. I AM so glad you and Chris were able to give me just the right advice to help me along with my inner struggles and help me see the bigger picture. I hope by then end of October I can come back to you guys and let you know how things panned out.

    And maybe ask for some new advice on what I may need then 🙂
    But as for now this has been amazing for me and I truly thank you both,

    1. Chrisalis

      Hi Sage… so happy this has been of help for you and your cards really were quite positive!

  4. Sage

    Hi Moledie and Chis I wanted to just check in and tell you guys since the past six months of you’re reading soo much if not everything you guys advised has been coming true. I have really been looking at the marriage and assessing what I want and more so if I want it still. I feel as though I am not still sure what the full outcome would be. So much of what I feel (as you guys mentioned) is based on emotions rather than facts or rather what the marriage has to offer especially long term. I find myself constantly going over that and wondering if this is time wasted vs time I should invest in. I know Melodie you said it is as slippery slope out there if I left based on wanting better as I could be trading one set of problems for another. I wanted to ask you when you advised above comparing our natal charts if there was anything you could advise me on that I should know about that would help me find more clarity and peace of mind. Also I sense on his end he is at his limits with all the fighting that has gone on in our relationship over the years and is tired of it so I don’t want to puh him to much to one direction that I may not be ready for i.e. divorce.

    Appreciate any help and guidance you can shed on this.
    thanks so much

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