May 11 2015
A client who we’ll call Anna wrote in to ask about her and her ex-lover’s current and upcoming transits.
She has been seeing a man for a year and a half before he broke up with her in late April. At the time he told her he was confused about his feelings and was thinking about someone he’d met and dated before.
Anna has some knowledge of astrology herself and has looked into each of their transits trying to make sense of things.
She concluded that the breakup was showing in both of their natal charts; yet she does understand that transits move and the energy shifts, meaning that once some of the more difficult transits lift, things may very well change.
Jan 08 2015
A client whom we’ll call Tara, wrote in with a question regarding her long-term relationship which ended abruptly in November. She writes:
As the new year looms, I’m looking around and still confused and shocked at what has rolled out in the past few months.
My now ex boyfriend broke up with me after a long term relationship during which we’d made constant plans for our future. We purchased a home together and got a dog, were talking about combining our 401Ks, discussing marriage, etc.
About a month before we planned to get engaged, he started becoming more and more distant and when I pressed him on it, he got defensive and withdrew further.
He ended up breaking up with me, and I’ve since moved out. I was completely blind-sided by this and am still reeling over what seems like a selfish and impulsive decision.
Jul 12 2014
We received the following question from a reader who has questions about her marriage:
My name is Sage (not real name) and I am married and I am constantly struggling to know if I made the right choice in marrying him. I often feel there is more for me or a better match. And while my husband is great, loving devoted and financially supportive I am not sure I can stay for the rest of my life with him and have kids with him…
I am not sure what information you need but I want to know if I am deep down destined to be with someone else or if I have found the person I am meant to be with and I should just live my life with them. Please help me I am a bit of an emotional mess.
May 21 2014
A client, we shall call Jane, asks on her 2 year strong relationship which ended suddenly in April.
She suspects Mars retrograde is the culprit and I agree this may have played a part but there were some other astrological players at the same time which continue to weave their way through both her and his charts.
With the overall energy of Mars retrograde and the other transits which were also going on during this time you can get an idea of how looking at both birth charts gives an invaluable understanding of what else may be hidden under the surface, how long it will last for and what you can do to lessen the impact upon yourself. Let’s look at what was happening in April and what is coming up in the new few months.
Jan 21 2014
What can astrology tell us about the prospects for happiness with different relationship partners? By looking at the connections between natal charts and composite charts, can we determine who we’re better suited for in a long-term capacity?
That’s the question we’re looking at today. A client (we’ll call her Elizabeth) wrote in asking about her connections to two different men.
The first one is her husband (whom we’ll call John). She’s been married to him for more than 10 years although for the most part she’s been unhappy. The other is a friend (whom we’ll call Mark) who she’s developed strong feelings for over the course of the last few years, although she’s never acted on them.
Jan 07 2014
A client — whom we’ll call Julie — wrote in asking about a man (whom we’ll call Patrick) that she’s been involved with for several months. The relationship has been seriously compromised by her pattern of running away — or pushing him away — and then agonizing over having done so until they get back together.
By her own admission, she’s never felt this way about anyone. Yet every time things start to settle into a comfortable rhythm, and seemingly every time there’s even the smallest hint of a problem, off she goes again.
He’s done a bit of pulling away himself. He doesn’t “run” per se. Instead he disconnects emotionally from time to time. But because the two of them can’t seem to get into sync, she wrote asking for an astrological perspective into this dynamic.
Because her email contained so many personal details I decided not to include it here. But this her main concern.
Dec 13 2013
This question is related to choosing between putting down roots after having a life full of travel and adventure and looking at the birth chart to see what is going on now and the transits which shall shortly hit the chart to glean insight into what is to happen next.
Our client “Mary” has written to ask about transitioning from the very rich and rewarding life she’s created for herself (seeing the world, traveling, volunteering and applying her skills to altruistic ventures in foreign lands, etc) to a more “normal” and settled existence back home.
Chrisalis takes a look at the current transits as they apply to Mary’s natal chart.
Her chart is full of freedom, excitement and new learning experiences and as Saturn comes closer to the natal node it shows what can occur within the person and around them.
Aug 04 2013
How do you deal with the on-going agony of wondering what went wrong when a relationship ends? Is there hope for reconciliation? Or is it time to move on? This is the question posted by Erica*, in reference to a break up that she’s still struggling to get over.
Dear Melodie: I am submitting a question for advice. My boyfriend broke up with me in June; it was a blindside. I’m wondering if he ever really cared about me, if he was just running scared, and if there will be a chance for reconcil-iation. My birth info is: (edited). Thank you so much for your time and consideration. I really appreciate your advice and expertise. ~ Erica
Jan 20 2013
What happens when one person moves on from a failed relationship while the other is still holding on?
This question relates to a long-standing relationship that ended “abruptly” — or did it?
There were astrological themes shifting into place for some time before the actual breakup.
But as we look at the underlying relationship needs for both of the individuals involved, we can see that while they might have been in sync at one time, that was no longer the case.
Facing that reality is not only the first step toward healing but also ultimately toward closure.
Jul 02 2012
Can two people who are madly in love get past what some consider the ultimate betrayal?
The “love planets” — Venus, Mars and personal relationship rulers all paint a picture that can help to determine whether a relationship can be saved:
My girlfriend confessed that she’s been with her ex-lover since we became involved.
She swears she’ll never do anything like this again and I’ve forgiven her, but I don’t know if I can trust her now. It feels like such a betrayal.
Apr 19 2012
This week’s question relates to a relationship which has been long distance for the past 18 months. Different parts of the respective charts will be looked at in order to ascertain if either or both are willing to move.
Who is the most flexible with this? And what the impending eclipse of November 25 may mean for their relationship.
Dear Chrisalis, I’m at a crossroads with my boyfriend of 4 yrs. We’ve been in a long distance relationship for the last year and a half. We do see each other several times a year and we speak every day.
But this is getting old and I want to figure out a way to be together (which means moving to the same place or one of us relocating to where the other one lives). Otherwise I think we need to just decide to go our separate ways. What do you see happening? ~ Katie
Feb 21 2012
How many of us have been in the position this week’s client finds herself in? Unhappy in a long-term relationship that appears to have run its course, while at the same time intrigued by someone new and exciting and most of all different.
What are the chances that a new relationship begun before an old one has ended can work? And how does astrology help us determine the potential outcome for each choice?
If you’ve ever been in this client’s shoes — at a relationship cross-roads — you’ll know what a difficult dilemma she faces.
This week Melodie sorts through it all by comparing her natal chart to each of her prospective partner’s, as well as a synopsis of the aspects, transits and synastry for all: