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Ambivalent, Disinterested or Commitment Phobic?

commitment phobic

This week Melodie addresses concerns posed by Laura, who’s having second thoughts about her relationship with a recently separated man. She struggles with his seeming ambivalence; questioning whether he’s as invested as she is, or just afraid of commitment.

My name is Laura. I’m in love with a man who’s married but getting a divorce. We have such a phenomenal connection, like none I’ve ever felt, but I’m not sure what to make of his commitment to me.

I’m very frustrated with this; it feels like I’m always last. I’m trying to be patient but he’s started dragging his feet again on finalizing the divorce. He says he wants to be with me but doesn’t make the effort. I’m ready to throw in the towel!

I just don’t know if he’s going to finally get his act together and make this a reality or if I should just move on. I would appreciate any help you can give me on this.

~ Laura

Ask the Astrologers — Taking your Relationship to the Next Level

taking things to the next level

This month we’re excited to announce the Ask the Astrologers column, which will become a regular feature of this blog. On what will hopefully become a regular basis, we’ll be offering astrological insights into questions about relationships, money, career, family, and a variety of other topics as submitted by our readers.

Although names will be changed and birth data omitted (in order to preserve confidentiality), each column will feature actual questions submitted by readers.

We plan to share the column and combine insights whenever possible, because we do each offer a unique astrological perspective. And while we can’t guarantee that specific questions will be selected in any given month, we encourage you to submit them.

October 2011 Monthly Horoscope

October 2011 Monthly Horoscope

Aries

March 21 – April 20

The urge to merge is especially strong for you this month, with a lineup of planets moving through both your romance and relationship sectors.   This can be good thing, if you’re single. If you’re already taken though you’ll want to be careful, although you can still whet your appetite for seduction by spicing things up with your existing partner. Nothing gets you fired up and raring to go like an all-out challenge – whether it’s chasing after a new conquest or fanning the flames in old one. Either way, you can expect fireworks to erupt in your relationships. Around the 14th or 15th a competing desire bubbles to surface, and you swing from pursuing your heart’s desires to asserting your independence. Important keywords for you this month are discipline, compromise, collaboration and balance.

Moon in Aries:  Oct 10, 11 12

September 2011 Monthly Horoscope

SSeptember 2011 Monthly Horoscope

Aries

March 21 – April 20 

You may be feeling a bit jittery this month with a lot of activity in your relationship area. Problem is you may feel you need to act quickly when in fact you may need to actually get your mind clear on what you want (or wish to say). Uranus is causing a bit of havoc for you just now as it in your own sign and whilst this may have been giving you flashes of insight recently it may now be that those insights were not what they used to be. Towards the end of the month relationship problems start to solidify for you and you have a more steadfast way forward as Saturn shines some wisdom on your heart.

Moon in Aries 13, 14 September

August 2011 Monthly Horoscope

August 2011 Monthly Horoscope

Aries

March 21 – April 20

Go easy on family members this month, as disagreements with those you’re closest to are likely to get personal. Misunderstandings abound: feathers can get ruffled and feelings can get hurt, especially around the 10th and 11th. Your ruler in hard aspect to Pluto during that time can set you on edge and make you more irritable and impatient than ever. You’ll make great strides in healing any rifts if you put yourself in someone else’s shoes and try to see things from their perspective. On the 16th, with the Moon in your sign and the Sun, Venus and Mercury moving through your romance sector, you can expect your love life to start heating up. You may rush headlong into a new relationship or fan the flames in an existing involvement. Just be careful not to neglect those who need your attention most.

Moon in Aries: Aug 16, 17, 18, 19

July 2011 Monthly Horoscope

July 2011 Monthly Horoscope

Aries: March 21 – April 20

Relationships are important to you this month and not just because Mars moves into that area of your chart on July 4 possibly causing you a few jitters and misunderstandings with someone close to you but also because there is a full moon in this area of your chart on July 3 which will highlight and bring to the fore any inconsistencies you have been experiencing with your partner. You will certainly not be without words to throw around if you are upset but you may wish to think a bit before you speak out especially early in the month.

Moon in Aries July 10, 11

June 2011 Monthly Horoscope

June 2011 Monthly Horoscope

Aries

March 21 – April 20

It’s time for you to let go of painful associations. You’ve probably been doing a fair job of weeding the dead wood out of your life in recent months anyway. But now with Uranus in your sign and Saturn changing direction in your relationship sector, you’ll be feeling a sense of urgency you hadn’t felt in the past. You may have been holding out and hoping that a partner would change, only to see that it’s you who’s changed. There’s no more room in your life for whatever’s been holding you back – and that includes people, material things, or outdated ideas. It’s out with the old and in with the new for you this month – as you prepare for the next chapter in your life.

Moon in Aries: June 23rd, 24th and 25th