May 21 2014
A client, we shall call Jane, asks on her 2 year strong relationship which ended suddenly in April.
She suspects Mars retrograde is the culprit and I agree this may have played a part but there were some other astrological players at the same time which continue to weave their way through both her and his charts.
With the overall energy of Mars retrograde and the other transits which were also going on during this time you can get an idea of how looking at both birth charts gives an invaluable understanding of what else may be hidden under the surface, how long it will last for and what you can do to lessen the impact upon yourself. Let’s look at what was happening in April and what is coming up in the new few months.
Jan 21 2014
What can astrology tell us about the prospects for happiness with different relationship partners? By looking at the connections between natal charts and composite charts, can we determine who we’re better suited for in a long-term capacity?
That’s the question we’re looking at today. A client (we’ll call her Elizabeth) wrote in asking about her connections to two different men.
The first one is her husband (whom we’ll call John). She’s been married to him for more than 10 years although for the most part she’s been unhappy. The other is a friend (whom we’ll call Mark) who she’s developed strong feelings for over the course of the last few years, although she’s never acted on them.
Jan 07 2014
A client — whom we’ll call Julie — wrote in asking about a man (whom we’ll call Patrick) that she’s been involved with for several months. The relationship has been seriously compromised by her pattern of running away — or pushing him away — and then agonizing over having done so until they get back together.
By her own admission, she’s never felt this way about anyone. Yet every time things start to settle into a comfortable rhythm, and seemingly every time there’s even the smallest hint of a problem, off she goes again.
He’s done a bit of pulling away himself. He doesn’t “run” per se. Instead he disconnects emotionally from time to time. But because the two of them can’t seem to get into sync, she wrote asking for an astrological perspective into this dynamic.
Because her email contained so many personal details I decided not to include it here. But this her main concern.
Dec 13 2013
This question is related to choosing between putting down roots after having a life full of travel and adventure and looking at the birth chart to see what is going on now and the transits which shall shortly hit the chart to glean insight into what is to happen next.
Our client “Mary” has written to ask about transitioning from the very rich and rewarding life she’s created for herself (seeing the world, traveling, volunteering and applying her skills to altruistic ventures in foreign lands, etc) to a more “normal” and settled existence back home.
Chrisalis takes a look at the current transits as they apply to Mary’s natal chart.
Her chart is full of freedom, excitement and new learning experiences and as Saturn comes closer to the natal node it shows what can occur within the person and around them.
Jan 20 2013
What happens when one person moves on from a failed relationship while the other is still holding on?
This question relates to a long-standing relationship that ended “abruptly” — or did it?
There were astrological themes shifting into place for some time before the actual breakup.
But as we look at the underlying relationship needs for both of the individuals involved, we can see that while they might have been in sync at one time, that was no longer the case.
Facing that reality is not only the first step toward healing but also ultimately toward closure.
Jul 02 2012
Can two people who are madly in love get past what some consider the ultimate betrayal?
The “love planets” — Venus, Mars and personal relationship rulers all paint a picture that can help to determine whether a relationship can be saved:
My girlfriend confessed that she’s been with her ex-lover since we became involved.
She swears she’ll never do anything like this again and I’ve forgiven her, but I don’t know if I can trust her now. It feels like such a betrayal.
Apr 19 2012
This week’s question relates to a relationship which has been long distance for the past 18 months. Different parts of the respective charts will be looked at in order to ascertain if either or both are willing to move.
Who is the most flexible with this? And what the impending eclipse of November 25 may mean for their relationship.
Dear Chrisalis, I’m at a crossroads with my boyfriend of 4 yrs. We’ve been in a long distance relationship for the last year and a half. We do see each other several times a year and we speak every day.
But this is getting old and I want to figure out a way to be together (which means moving to the same place or one of us relocating to where the other one lives). Otherwise I think we need to just decide to go our separate ways. What do you see happening? ~ Katie
Feb 21 2012
How many of us have been in the position this week’s client finds herself in? Unhappy in a long-term relationship that appears to have run its course, while at the same time intrigued by someone new and exciting and most of all different.
What are the chances that a new relationship begun before an old one has ended can work? And how does astrology help us determine the potential outcome for each choice?
If you’ve ever been in this client’s shoes — at a relationship cross-roads — you’ll know what a difficult dilemma she faces.
This week Melodie sorts through it all by comparing her natal chart to each of her prospective partner’s, as well as a synopsis of the aspects, transits and synastry for all:
Nov 22 2011
Torn between two lovers — sound familiar? Astrologers are often called upon to shed light on the differences between relationship prospects, as each person’s unique relationship paradigm is spelled out clearly in the natal chart.
Synastry (comparing the planets in two different charts) can provide incredibly accurate details about a relationship’s strengths and weaknesses, and can reveal in-depth information about sexual compatibility, chemistry, communications styles, love and even karma.
Another practice, using midpoints to combine two natal charts into one (called a “composite” chart) will accurately describe the relationship itself rather than the individual parties.
Nov 06 2011
What happens when an astrologer is given birth info for a client who does not know his or her exact birth time? Can an astrologer still interpret the natal chart? And what about relationship compatibility? Can the same be done with an unknown birth time for a love interest or relationship partner?
This week Chrisalis responds to a client with this exact dilemma; and yes there is much that can be interpreted, even without the exact time of birth:
I’m curious about how all the planets line up for me. I know I’m a Capricorn but that’s about all I know. I wonder what you can tell me about where the planets were at the time of my birth and how that applies to me specifically. I don’t know my birth-time, and I’m also curious about my relationship with a man that I’ve been seeing. We had some bumps in the road and would like to know what to expect in the coming months. Thank you, Cathy.
Oct 28 2011
This week Melodie addresses concerns posed by Laura, who’s having second thoughts about her relationship with a recently separated man. She struggles with his seeming ambivalence; questioning whether he’s as invested as she is, or just afraid of commitment.
My name is Laura. I’m in love with a man who’s married but getting a divorce. We have such a phenomenal connection, like none I’ve ever felt, but I’m not sure what to make of his commitment to me.
I’m very frustrated with this; it feels like I’m always last. I’m trying to be patient but he’s started dragging his feet again on finalizing the divorce. He says he wants to be with me but doesn’t make the effort. I’m ready to throw in the towel!
I just don’t know if he’s going to finally get his act together and make this a reality or if I should just move on. I would appreciate any help you can give me on this.
Oct 24 2011
This month we’re excited to announce the Ask the Astrologers column, which will become a regular feature of this blog. On what will hopefully become a regular basis, we’ll be offering astrological insights into questions about relationships, money, career, family, and a variety of other topics as submitted by our readers.
Although names will be changed and birth data omitted (in order to preserve confidentiality), each column will feature actual questions submitted by readers.
We plan to share the column and combine insights whenever possible, because we do each offer a unique astrological perspective. And while we can’t guarantee that specific questions will be selected in any given month, we encourage you to submit them.