Jun 14 2014
by Fiona Beck, guest blogger
Definition of a Sociopath: Many of the experiences that we have when dealing with a Soul Mate can be remarkably like dealing with a Sociopath, so how do we know the difference?
When you meet your Soul Mate it can feel as if you have waited your whole life for this person, the intensity is incredible, the love you feel knocks you off your feet and the two of you spend every spare moment communicating and sharing your hopes, thoughts and dreams. It literally feels like you have met the person that you were destined to spend your life with – discovered the very reason that you were born. You always wanted a connection this deep and here it is!
May 10 2014
by Willows Brilliance, guest blogger
Building a relationship during times of stress (or the hubbub of the holiday season) sometimes seems like the last thing we want to do.
With everything else seeming more important, it’s easy to fall into familiar traps where we see the other person as our aggravating, progress-blocking, obstacle who is doing whatever they’re doing to hurt us… on purpose.
Often this is not true at all, in reality it’s just a distraction from intimacy manufactured from conclusions we’re jumping to, or the desire to protect ourselves without really knowing the full story.
However, there are times when the other person really is trying to get under our skin or deliver a few well placed emotional punches.
Jan 28 2014
by Kasandra, guest blogger
So many of my clients visit me when they feel their life is at a crossroads, either having to make a difficult decision about a relationship/marriage, work etc, losing a loved one, losing a job, relocating, issues with low self esteem, wanting to know when love will come, kids and family issues, etc.
It made me think of does fear of the new, of the unknown is causing a “freeze” (staying in self-inflicted prison) which prevents a person to move on.
I therefore decided to write about how to accept change in order to give you, my dear friend, tools to do the transit as easily, positively and as productively as possible.
Jan 21 2014
What can astrology tell us about the prospects for happiness with different relationship partners? By looking at the connections between natal charts and composite charts, can we determine who we’re better suited for in a long-term capacity?
That’s the question we’re looking at today. A client (we’ll call her Elizabeth) wrote in asking about her connections to two different men.
The first one is her husband (whom we’ll call John). She’s been married to him for more than 10 years although for the most part she’s been unhappy. The other is a friend (whom we’ll call Mark) who she’s developed strong feelings for over the course of the last few years, although she’s never acted on them.
Jan 07 2014
A client — whom we’ll call Julie — wrote in asking about a man (whom we’ll call Patrick) that she’s been involved with for several months. The relationship has been seriously compromised by her pattern of running away — or pushing him away — and then agonizing over having done so until they get back together.
By her own admission, she’s never felt this way about anyone. Yet every time things start to settle into a comfortable rhythm, and seemingly every time there’s even the smallest hint of a problem, off she goes again.
He’s done a bit of pulling away himself. He doesn’t “run” per se. Instead he disconnects emotionally from time to time. But because the two of them can’t seem to get into sync, she wrote asking for an astrological perspective into this dynamic.
Because her email contained so many personal details I decided not to include it here. But this her main concern.
Dec 13 2013
This question is related to choosing between putting down roots after having a life full of travel and adventure and looking at the birth chart to see what is going on now and the transits which shall shortly hit the chart to glean insight into what is to happen next.
Our client “Mary” has written to ask about transitioning from the very rich and rewarding life she’s created for herself (seeing the world, traveling, volunteering and applying her skills to altruistic ventures in foreign lands, etc) to a more “normal” and settled existence back home.
Chrisalis takes a look at the current transits as they apply to Mary’s natal chart.
Her chart is full of freedom, excitement and new learning experiences and as Saturn comes closer to the natal node it shows what can occur within the person and around them.
Sep 16 2013
We hear so much about men being “from Mars” — and in a lot of ways this is true, at least astrologically.
In general, they tend to relate more to their natal Mars positions and project their Venuses out onto the women (or male partners, if gay) in their lives.
This is in line with the Jungian concept of anima/animus (inner woman or inner man) projections that each of us embody. But this also tells us a great deal about what men are looking for in a mate.
A man’s natal Venus sign placement describes not only what he’s attracted to, but how he’s likely to conduct himself in relationship. It tells us how he expresses love and affection, how he receives love and affection from others, and how he relates to his partner in a one-on-one relationship.It tells what he’s looking for in a soulmate and how capable he is of investing himself emotionally in soulmate relationships.
Aug 04 2013
How do you deal with the on-going agony of wondering what went wrong when a relationship ends? Is there hope for reconciliation? Or is it time to move on? This is the question posted by Erica*, in reference to a break up that she’s still struggling to get over.
Dear Melodie: I am submitting a question for advice. My boyfriend broke up with me in June; it was a blindside. I’m wondering if he ever really cared about me, if he was just running scared, and if there will be a chance for reconcil-iation. My birth info is: (edited). Thank you so much for your time and consideration. I really appreciate your advice and expertise. ~ Erica
Jun 29 2013
Happy Birthday Cancer! Here are some highlights for the month ahead:
Lunations: The New Moon this month is on July 8th at 16° Cancer.
The Full Moon takes place on July 22nd at 0° Aquarius.
Retrogrades: Saturn is retrograde until it turns stationary direct at 4° Scorpio on July 8th. Uranus turns retrograde on July 17th at 12° Aries.
Mercury is retrograde until it turns stationary direct on July 20th at 13° Cancer. Chiron, Neptune and Pluto are all retrograde for the entire month of July.
Ingresses: Mars moves into Cancer on July 13th. The Sun enters Leo and Venus enters Virgo on July 22nd.
Jan 20 2013
What happens when one person moves on from a failed relationship while the other is still holding on?
This question relates to a long-standing relationship that ended “abruptly” — or did it?
There were astrological themes shifting into place for some time before the actual breakup.
But as we look at the underlying relationship needs for both of the individuals involved, we can see that while they might have been in sync at one time, that was no longer the case.
Facing that reality is not only the first step toward healing but also ultimately toward closure.
Dec 01 2012
You’ll be rolling with the big dogs this month, thanks to some powerful planetary lineups affecting both your career and financial sectors. Your ruler (Mars) and Pluto are elevated and moving through your professional sector from the beginning of the month. You may feel like you’re under greater public scrutiny, but you should come out smelling like a rose — as these planets are both well placed and well aspected for the better part of the month. Mercury, Venus, Saturn and the North Node are all moving through your 8th house – the area related to sex, death, joint resources and personal transformation. You’ll likely have dealings with each of these areas throughout the month, but these are also favorably aspected. This is a better time for saving and investing than it is for spending, even in the midst of the Holiday season. A message from afar comes on the 10th, followed by good news on the 15th. You’re also in line for some recognition in the work-force closer to the 21st. All in all this month should be favorable for you professionally so work on manifesting your career aspirations as you prepare for the year ahead.
Moon in Aries: Dec 20, 21, 22
Jul 02 2012
Can two people who are madly in love get past what some consider the ultimate betrayal?
The “love planets” — Venus, Mars and personal relationship rulers all paint a picture that can help to determine whether a relationship can be saved:
My girlfriend confessed that she’s been with her ex-lover since we became involved.
She swears she’ll never do anything like this again and I’ve forgiven her, but I don’t know if I can trust her now. It feels like such a betrayal.